"I want to get a job in a company where my best friend has been working for a long time and has a good job there. But many dissuade, they say that it's better not to deal with friends. Personally, I do not see anything wrong with the fact that we will also be colleagues. He and the authorities will cover, if that, and help if the job. In addition, we have not had the opportunity to meet frequently lately: we are always busy. And with a colleague you see each day.
In this regard, I'm interested: what nuances can arise if we work together with a friend? "
Carmen Monahan:
- Indeed, many people say that friendship ends when people have to choose who is in charge, to share responsibilities or profit. And this is the realities of life ...
But, by and large, friendship is constantly subjected to checks for strength, and work including. Yes, it is sometimes difficult to be friends and work together. But no matter how the relationship developed, it is worth remembering: friendship is also the work of two people, and the result of it depends on the efforts of everyone.
There are foreign studies that prove that having friends at work increases 50% of people's satisfaction with their activities and improves their efficiency sevenfold.
Many companies today consider warm, friendly relations and joint pastime of colleagues outside the working space as an integral part of corporate culture. To do this, organized trips to nature, going to the theater, celebrating birthdays and common holidays, because a colleague is checked not only in business, but also in joint rest! Moreover, many important work matters are solved precisely during abstract conversations outside of work.
Examples of this, unshakable friendship and a successful working union are not so many, but they exist. And very often it turns out that friends at work and in personal life walked as if on the same road, not pushing with the elbows at the same time: they were neighbors in childhood, went to the same school, then almost at the same time got a family... If people, as they say, one direction, the common work or joint business of their relationship will not hurt, and friendship will not only not spoil the common cause, but, on the contrary, support and strengthen it.
The founders of many well-known companies (for example, such as "Aplle", "Google", "Microsoft") were good friends. But, alas, not all of them could overcome life's realities and make a choice in favor of friendship. For example, the story of Apple CEO Steve Jobs, shown in the film "Jobs: The Empire of Temptation," is very revealing. On the one hand, the hero is an ingenious inventor, to whom people always stretched (in his small garage he gathers friends who are lighting up his idea and working for her all his youth), and on the other - a man who is not needed, self-centered, in the end Losing loyal friends and loving woman, but becoming a billionaire.
The combination of service and friendship becomes more difficult at times, when you and your colleague-friend are put into competition terms, that is, you have to compete with each other, for example, for a prize or for a new appointment. The roles of a friend and competitor are poorly combined psychologically, which means there is a certain threat to your relationship. When friendship is on one side of the balance, and money, career, or other benefits on the other, many will not hesitate to choose the second.
But even in these conditions, to keep friendship real. You just need to clearly distinguish between two roles: there are friends of James and Peter, and there are employees performing their duties. We must remember: you are not competing with the person himself, but with the results of his work. Look, for example, on athletes. Many of them are perfectly friends with their colleagues in the shop, despite the need to fight with each other for medals or tournament points. For example, the outstanding grandmaster Lev Polugaevsky, who was friends with many well-known chess players, said: "I'm not playing against a person, but against figures."
Therefore, if both people have the same values ??and sincerely sympathize with each other outside the context of the circumstances, their friendship will survive in any conditions.
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In this regard, I'm interested: what nuances can arise if we work together with a friend? "
Jerome J. Vang
Carmen Monahan:
- Indeed, many people say that friendship ends when people have to choose who is in charge, to share responsibilities or profit. And this is the realities of life ...
But, by and large, friendship is constantly subjected to checks for strength, and work including. Yes, it is sometimes difficult to be friends and work together. But no matter how the relationship developed, it is worth remembering: friendship is also the work of two people, and the result of it depends on the efforts of everyone.
There are foreign studies that prove that having friends at work increases 50% of people's satisfaction with their activities and improves their efficiency sevenfold.
Many companies today consider warm, friendly relations and joint pastime of colleagues outside the working space as an integral part of corporate culture. To do this, organized trips to nature, going to the theater, celebrating birthdays and common holidays, because a colleague is checked not only in business, but also in joint rest! Moreover, many important work matters are solved precisely during abstract conversations outside of work.
Examples of this, unshakable friendship and a successful working union are not so many, but they exist. And very often it turns out that friends at work and in personal life walked as if on the same road, not pushing with the elbows at the same time: they were neighbors in childhood, went to the same school, then almost at the same time got a family... If people, as they say, one direction, the common work or joint business of their relationship will not hurt, and friendship will not only not spoil the common cause, but, on the contrary, support and strengthen it.
The founders of many well-known companies (for example, such as "Aplle", "Google", "Microsoft") were good friends. But, alas, not all of them could overcome life's realities and make a choice in favor of friendship. For example, the story of Apple CEO Steve Jobs, shown in the film "Jobs: The Empire of Temptation," is very revealing. On the one hand, the hero is an ingenious inventor, to whom people always stretched (in his small garage he gathers friends who are lighting up his idea and working for her all his youth), and on the other - a man who is not needed, self-centered, in the end Losing loyal friends and loving woman, but becoming a billionaire.
The combination of service and friendship becomes more difficult at times, when you and your colleague-friend are put into competition terms, that is, you have to compete with each other, for example, for a prize or for a new appointment. The roles of a friend and competitor are poorly combined psychologically, which means there is a certain threat to your relationship. When friendship is on one side of the balance, and money, career, or other benefits on the other, many will not hesitate to choose the second.
But even in these conditions, to keep friendship real. You just need to clearly distinguish between two roles: there are friends of James and Peter, and there are employees performing their duties. We must remember: you are not competing with the person himself, but with the results of his work. Look, for example, on athletes. Many of them are perfectly friends with their colleagues in the shop, despite the need to fight with each other for medals or tournament points. For example, the outstanding grandmaster Lev Polugaevsky, who was friends with many well-known chess players, said: "I'm not playing against a person, but against figures."
Therefore, if both people have the same values ??and sincerely sympathize with each other outside the context of the circumstances, their friendship will survive in any conditions.
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